well, he's going out with another friend of mine. My friends say he looks very wrong with her and looks like he's just trying to fill a void in his life. But, on the bright side, he's been rather huggy with me lately. I don't know the depth of his relationship with this other girl...so yea. that's how it's going. Quite honestly, If the "US" thing doesn't work out, I'm compleatly content and honered to have as good of a friend that I do in him for life, versus a messy break up and never wanting to see him again. *shrug* If it's ment to be, it'll happen I suppose.
so... LONG LONG LONG STORY short - my good friend was going out with this girl, she broke up with him - this was april. but they still talked, etc - she wanted to remain good friends... but hes sorta been pressuring her more and more - thus driving her away and right now the chances of them getting back together are nil. through this all i was tryin to b a good friend n get them back together... unfortunatley (or fortunatley depending on how u look at it) through this, i end up falling for this girl, and vice versa...
what the hell do i do? i wanna stay friends with my friend, because i value our friendship - and if i was to do anythingggg at all id want his blessing first...
a little background - they dated for a month then went out for another month, so 2 months in total, really not a lot - BUT, my friend took it ridiculously hard, and hes really blown it outta proportion for a 2 month relationship.
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I want to tell you to just ask her out, and to screw him. But, really, confront him. Tell him that you've gotten to know her while trying to help get the two of them back together, and it just happened. And if he acts like a jerk and says no, then say that she dumped him, it is her choice, and, like you said, he blew it way out of proportion, they aren't soulmates.
well, I would disagrre with Night. I think that you should NOT ask her out especially if he is a good friend because if you've been friends with him for a while, you probably want to keep him as your friends as it is a slim chance that you will end up with her for the rest of your life. However, its up to you.
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Before I give my opinion, and that's all it is, C-Walk...Has your friend and this woman been..."intimate"?
And how's your friend's history with the opposite sex through the years?
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RA, that is actually a surprisingly important question. )
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Oh yeah, Night...it is vital.
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lol...to the best of my knowlage, that's what razzin' means. ha. well, I'm off to school, so I'll talk to you all later!
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That's one of the weirdest things I've ever heard. Someone over the age of 7, enthusiastic about school. )
In Art our teacher left a quid on the side like at the beginning of the lesson, and then it was gone and no one would own up so she kept us back and it's really a shuddering thought now to think there's a thief in our group.
not really enthusiastic about most of school...I reall only like Tech and History. I'm waiting for my turn on the laser engraver, so I decided to pop on and see what was going down. I'm going to cut a Phantom mask thing out of red acrylic. should prove to awesome looking. hehe I'm excited.
Ah sorry RA for not answering ur question earlier...
but yes, they have been *intimate* n that was part of the reason she broke up with him --- ok not in terms of he was good or bad, but she left because things moved too fast, and she wanted to just have some time to breathe, etc... and through this, he kept pushing the issue instead of giving her space and now hes totally squandered his chances with her.
in addition to this -like i said b4, her ex is a good friend of mine, so im in quite a pickle here, lol... not sure exactly how im gonna approach this.
im goin to the movies with her tomorrow - and he knows, but he doesnt know the depth behind it (for lack of a better term). If i say anything to him about my feelings for her, it would be after the movies... because id look like a real jerk if i said something today - then went to the movies, had a horrible time and didnt like her. but i doubt thats going to happen.
Also, my friend gets easily attached, but just as easily distracted... like if i could push him towards another girl that would help a bit - but i think thats sorta low of me. He's a good friend of mine, and I dont wanna lose his friendship.
well, that does sound like a bit of a pickle, C_Walk. I suck at relationship advice, so I'll say that I hope you guys have a good time, and that your friend is not horribly mad if anything does happen between you and this girl.
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Ah sorry RA for not answering ur question earlier...
but yes, they have been *intimate* n that was part of the reason she broke up with him --- ok not in terms of he was good or bad, but she left because things moved too fast, and she wanted to just have some time to breathe, etc... and through this, he kept pushing the issue instead of giving her space and now hes totally squandered his chances with her.
Trust me...it was the sex. He didn't meet her expectations in the heat of battle and she was trying to leave him alone in a nice way instead of coming right out and saying that he was lame. She knew what she was doing when they got intimate; he just couldn't "rise" to the challenge. Sorry for the pun.
My grandmother used to say all of the time that a woman only lets a man go as far as she wants him to, so her excuse as to why she claims she wanted space is bull. Believe me, if they did click, your chances with her would've been alot slimmer than they are now.
in addition to this -like i said b4, her ex is a good friend of mine, so im in quite a pickle here, lol... not sure exactly how im gonna approach this.
I think you already know the answer to this...thing is, will you listen to your conscious?
im goin to the movies with her tomorrow - and he knows, but he doesnt know the depth behind it (for lack of a better term). If i say anything to him about my feelings for her, it would be after the movies... because id look like a real jerk if i said something today - then went to the movies, had a horrible time and didnt like her. but i doubt thats going to happen.[/qoute]
What a pal... 8-)
Also, my friend gets easily attached, but just as easily distracted... like if i could push him towards another girl that would help a bit - but i think thats sorta low of me. He's a good friend of mine, and I dont wanna lose his friendship.
not too sure how to approach this
If your friendship is as tight as you claim it is, C-Walk, be prepared for the consequences that MIGHT follow. Who knows? Maybe you and this girl hit it off instantly; it has happened countless times before and in your case it can happen again. But if and when your friend finds out and accepts the fact that you and the babe make a better couple & you 2 remain pals, you may have planted a seed deeply in him of mistrust.
That means every woman in the future he falls for, he won't trust you around them for fear that this may happen again. You 2 may have a terrible disagreement in the future and he just might throw his "trump card" before you on this incident as a defense. Tread lightly I say; Karma has a funny way of rearing its ugly head.
Personally, I've never wanted to date my best buddy's exes. Yes, I've been put in that position 2-3 times but I declined respectfully... Call it a pompous approach on my part but I never wanted their leftovers. They should've just hooked up with me from the get-go.
Hope this helps, man and good luck to you.
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truth is - hes not my best buddy... ive known him for a long time, but only as like - oh i know him, not as a friend
BUT - that said, we've only become real friends recently.
So I talked to him today - and I'm gettin the impression that he's ready to give up with her. Rightfully so. If thats the case - then who knows?
But, there is no rush here - nothing needs to be done anytime soon, nor will it be done anytime soon. At the moment im going to take it easy, very slowly, very cautiously.
And youre right about karma, thats why I dont want to offend anyone. Ive seen bad things happen way too many times, and I dont wanna be the victim of it.
To quote Harold and Kumar go to Whitecastle (lol) - the universe has a tendency to unfold as it should
lol... thanks guys
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You're welcome, man. -{
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If things to go well between you and you really hit it off with this girl, and he knows and then gets peed off, tell him he shouldn't. If he wants to remain a true friend, he should be able to be happy for you, as well as when things are going well for himself.
Also, if you really want to hit things off with this girl, take back seats at the movies.
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so... LONG LONG LONG STORY short - my good friend was going out with this girl, she broke up with him - this was april. but they still talked, etc - she wanted to remain good friends... but hes sorta been pressuring her more and more - thus driving her away and right now the chances of them getting back together are nil. through this all i was tryin to b a good friend n get them back together... unfortunatley (or fortunatley depending on how u look at it) through this, i end up falling for this girl, and vice versa...
what the hell do i do? i wanna stay friends with my friend, because i value our friendship - and if i was to do anythingggg at all id want his blessing first...
a little background - they dated for a month then went out for another month, so 2 months in total, really not a lot - BUT, my friend took it ridiculously hard, and hes really blown it outta proportion for a 2 month relationship.
And how's your friend's history with the opposite sex through the years?
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-Batman: The Brave & The Bold -
Ah, to h#ll with your questiones...
Why are you razzin' me, 64?
I was rooting for you prom night!
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I'm not exactly sure what razzin' means, I was just givin' you a hard time (a joke) after I realized how correct you were.
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but yes, they have been *intimate* n that was part of the reason she broke up with him --- ok not in terms of he was good or bad, but she left because things moved too fast, and she wanted to just have some time to breathe, etc... and through this, he kept pushing the issue instead of giving her space and now hes totally squandered his chances with her.
in addition to this -like i said b4, her ex is a good friend of mine, so im in quite a pickle here, lol... not sure exactly how im gonna approach this.
im goin to the movies with her tomorrow - and he knows, but he doesnt know the depth behind it (for lack of a better term). If i say anything to him about my feelings for her, it would be after the movies... because id look like a real jerk if i said something today - then went to the movies, had a horrible time and didnt like her. but i doubt thats going to happen.
Also, my friend gets easily attached, but just as easily distracted... like if i could push him towards another girl that would help a bit - but i think thats sorta low of me. He's a good friend of mine, and I dont wanna lose his friendship.
not too sure how to approach this
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Trust me...it was the sex. He didn't meet her expectations in the heat of battle and she was trying to leave him alone in a nice way instead of coming right out and saying that he was lame. She knew what she was doing when they got intimate; he just couldn't "rise" to the challenge. Sorry for the pun.
My grandmother used to say all of the time that a woman only lets a man go as far as she wants him to, so her excuse as to why she claims she wanted space is bull. Believe me, if they did click, your chances with her would've been alot slimmer than they are now.
I think you already know the answer to this...thing is, will you listen to your conscious?
Batman: "The Hammer Of Justice is UNISEX!"
-Batman: The Brave & The Bold -
truth is - hes not my best buddy... ive known him for a long time, but only as like - oh i know him, not as a friend
BUT - that said, we've only become real friends recently.
So I talked to him today - and I'm gettin the impression that he's ready to give up with her. Rightfully so. If thats the case - then who knows?
But, there is no rush here - nothing needs to be done anytime soon, nor will it be done anytime soon. At the moment im going to take it easy, very slowly, very cautiously.
And youre right about karma, thats why I dont want to offend anyone. Ive seen bad things happen way too many times, and I dont wanna be the victim of it.
To quote Harold and Kumar go to Whitecastle (lol) - the universe has a tendency to unfold as it should
lol... thanks guys
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Also, if you really want to hit things off with this girl, take back seats at the movies.
It happened to me once and I lost a really good friend because I thought with the wrong head and she ended up dumping me for someone else.
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seems like it. He's knwolegable about all sorts of things.
he's like the buddha of AJB, lol
;% Aw...shucks...thanks, guys...
I'm not that knowledgeable at all really. I'm wearing a Dunce cap was we speak.
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