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The Bond Experience

Hello! I know several of you have volunteered this info on other threads but in an upcoming vlog I will be discussing the approach/technique of what to say/not to say when a significant other asks you about a new delivery/piece. Or how do you subtlety introduce a piece into your home without ANY discussion...

I would love for any of you to let me know your technique (real or imagined) in this thread so I can collect some great content. Feel free to note any outcomes and results....also, let me know if I can use your online name (no real names) in the vlog to give credit if used....

MikeG77

Do the suggestions have to exclusively deal with Bond items?

Dirty Punker

I would just wear it if it's a clothing item. And if she notices and asks me about it I let her know.




Of course, I don't have a significant other but she is my mum :v. I think you had made a video of the same nature Mantis, with your QoS Tom Ford Talamone kit.

Castle007

I would say throw it in your closet and then over a series of weeks, gradually wear it layered with other clothes, slowly revealing it little by little. Her mind will subconsciously remember seeing it in glimpses and it’s doubtful she’ll call you out on it at all.

Arbogast 777

The 48 Hour Rule: if you leave a new purchase in PLAIN VIEW for 48 hours and she makes no notice of it, you can then make up whatever story you want about how you obtained it when it finally is noticed.

apple8

Arbogast777 wrote:

The 48 Hour Rule: if you leave a new purchase in PLAIN VIEW for 48 hours and she makes no notice of it, you can then make up whatever story you want about how you obtained it when it finally is noticed.

Haha I use this all the time, problem I have though is my wife does the washing so I get a few comments of ‘I’ve NEVER washed this before!!’
I can normally get away with jacket because I’ve got so many (yes I have a problem ) )

Dirty Punker

Castle007 wrote:

I would say throw it in your closet and then over a series of weeks, gradually wear it layered with other clothes, slowly revealing it little by little. Her mind will subconsciously remember seeing it in glimpses and it’s doubtful she’ll call you out on it at all.

Strip...tease.

Alex1995

Keep the prop (of possible) in the box until I get the all project ready and the proper show case or presentation that meet the correct WAF (Wife Acceptance Factor). -{

same with video, Hi-fi or tech.

Chriscoop

Of course sometimes you just need to employ some bondesque style covert operations! It's not lying or deceit it's what I call " willfull participation in a campaign of misinformation "
Quite recently I undertook such a mission to procure my new watch, Mrs coop had an appointment and I encouraged her to do a bit of shopping while in town" 3 minutes after she left I set off to the jewellers with a window of 3 hours max, went to the same town centre as her, got in collected the package, got out clean and made it home with enough time to get lunch ready ( all with our 3 year old boy with me) my wife arrived 30 minutes later under the impression we had just had a quiet morning, I was of course wearing the new watch.
On another event I used our account for our rental property for a few items from Tom Ford, coincidentally my plumber is called Tom, when asked about the amount to Tom Ford I just claimed it was the plumbing bill, then went into a pseudo rant about how much bloody plumbers charge!
Fortunately my wife is as much of a clothes horse as me so clothes are no problem. Except jackets and chukka boots!

007JBDCMWR

For Astons David, I go with the investment...
So my first 07 v8v it was one year old and I saved £30k on list, bargain...
My next, dbs in Casino Royale grey, low miles and getting to the bottom of the depreciation curve, can only go up in value, bargain...
Made a load of money in actual fact, so next v8v was easy, Astons always make you money, bargain...
And now a final model dbs in quantum silver, obviously going to appreciate in value (ha, fingers crossed), bargain...

Man maths at best every time )

Thunderpussy

) I used to do a similar thing with cameras. My wife would notice a new camera and ask
" Is that new ?" , only for me to reply " What this, No I've had this one for ages !"

Peppermill

I am really surprised to see all the "sneaky" ways of introducing new items to your wife, gf, etc. I never had any trouble with this. Of course I get the question "what's the Bond connection with this pair of shoes" once in a while. But we both make our own money, split the bills 50/50 and have some disposable income to spend. So when I want a new bass guitar, I buy it. When my gf wants to have a weekend away with her friends or a new dress, she can do whatever she wants. As long as we can make ends meet, enjoy the time we have together and are able to have at least 4 weeks of holiday abroad I don't think I will ever have the problem of 'subtlety introduce a piece into my home'. I just buy what I want, when I want (and so does my girlfriend). I think that feeling bad or getting hell about a purchase means that you spent money that you can't really use on 'luxury' items.

nafets47

When I first bought the Tom Ford Skyfall PTS suit my wife said "Wow, that is very nice. When did you get that?" I replied, "Oh, just bought it. It was a great deal." (slapping myself in the head later thinking I should have never mentioned anything in regards to price)

To which she asked "Who makes it?", I reply "Tom Ford". She asks, "Isn't his stuff expensive?" Me "Normally" Her "How much was it?" Me "$1,100" then came the look like I was a witch during the Salem witch hunts.

Good times. Surprisingly better than when I spent $4000 on a watch. )

Worst was when I spent several grand on some ties.

Best,
Stefan

DB6

“This? Been in the wardrobe ages” is a saying both my wife and I use. We don’t ask how much things were as we trust each other.

Doesn’t mean I don’t sometimes feel I’ve spent unnecessarily as I’m sure we all feel from time to time

Chriscoop

Peppermill wrote:

I am really surprised to see all the "sneaky" ways of introducing new items to your wife, gf, etc. I never had any trouble with this. Of course I get the question "what's the Bond connection with this pair of shoes" once in a while. But we both make our own money, split the bills 50/50 and have some disposable income to spend. So when I want a new bass guitar, I buy it. When my gf wants to have a weekend away with her friends or a new dress, she can do whatever she wants. As long as we can make ends meet, enjoy the time we have together and are able to have at least 4 weeks of holiday abroad I don't think I will ever have the problem of 'subtlety introduce a piece into my home'. I just buy what I want, when I want (and so does my girlfriend). I think that feeling bad or getting hell about a purchase means that you spent money that you can't really use on 'luxury' items.

Well my clandestine methods are very much needed, Mrs Coop is the consumate "planner" as much as we do earn our own money my wife plans the hell out of it, all our bills are paid but any spare cash would quickly be allowed somewhere else for some reason I have little interest in, we both work long hours and due to child commitments and time constraints we don't get much chance for meals out or heavy spending on drink or hobbies so I justify my watches or Bond inspired clothing to myself along the lines of its my interest and my hobby. What helps is that my watch collection has needed very little extra finance from within itself, it's been largely self contained, it used to consist of an old SM300 that was my grandfather's, an smp ( Brosnan era) and a white gold Rolex submariner which was a gift, that Rolex was sold and pretty much paid for my current collection with some canny and Lucky buying along the way including a gold Rolex daytona bought very cheaply and sold for a profit to fund 3 omegas, fortunately mrscoop knows nothing about watches despite the fact I've bought her a constellation and de ville!
If she knew how much I've spent on sunglasses shed go nuts, she balked at £70 for some Ted Baker ones I bought her, so she defo wouldn't understand the £2k odd I've got in Tom Ford and persol sunnies! I also only wear Tom Ford fragrance which shes happy to know is only £40 a bottle and she's fine with the Matchless jacket that was only £100 from eBay and she completely gets I needed " another bloody shawl collar cardigan" that I bought from some bloke in Yarm for a bargain price of £40

walther p99

I'm right there with you guys with being all too familiar with the moment when someone asks how much a Bond item costs and when you tell them their eyes widen and they say "you paid HOW much for that tie/shirt/shoes/etc.?" and the natural follow up question they ask is usually "WHY does it cost so much?". At this point in my Bond collecting career I'm a bit desensitized to the pricing for these luxury items but I totally understand how others could be a bit shocked at spending $300 on a tie or something.

Asp9mm

I think a few of you fellas need to grow some balls ) It's no ones business other than mine how much I've paid for stuff and it's bloody rude of them to ask. And if they do, don't tell or play it down. I'd never dream of asking someone how much they'd paid for an item. It's unbelievably rude and crass.

minigeff

I think my initial thought is if you need to hide something or lie to your 'significant other' about a recent purchase what does that tell you? seems like a rather distrustful way of doing things to me.

danjaq_0ff

A sign of good character lying to ones best friend i.e. the wife, If you can lie to her you can lie to anyone :v

I was always told you can catch a thief, but not always a lier -{

My wife never asked about Bond stuff that I bought in to my house, but if she did Id tell her straight, so far on this list it only seems that there are 3 honest people :v

TroyIkeda

All depends of the wife. I find that as long as I get my wife something (as long as she thinks it's of the same value), and our son doesn't need anything at the moment, my purchases go un-judged for the most part. For example, I buy a jacket from TF, or Matchless or one of those companies...we go to JC Penny or something like that and get her a couple of things. As long as she's happy with her new stuff, my purchase has been forgotten. Just so long as she doesn't know the actual price...

Higgins

Ahem, let me give you my 2 cents....

I am married for 17 years and learnt my lessons.

If I can, I hide EVERYTHING from her until she finds out. I hide 007 purchases, watch purchases, cameras, trainers - EVERYTHING!

It's not that she demands more spending for herself - it's just the fact that I/we spend so much money on in her eyes unneccessary crap.

I remember well, when I purchased my first digital camera. I tried to hide it from her, but had to put it aways when she entered the room. Unfortunately, she saw the cable and followed that back to the camera. She still mentions that!

And the day that I've told her that I've spent EUR 550,-- for a Carbon Fibre frame around my shifter was a very bad one for me - and still is

danjaq_0ff

Higgins wrote:

Ahem, let me give you my 2 cents....

I am married for 17 years and learnt my lessons.

If I can, I hide EVERYTHING from her until she finds out. I hide 007 purchases, watch purchases, cameras, trainers - EVERYTHING!

It's not that she demands more spending for herself - it's just the fact that I/we spend so much money on in her eyes unneccessary crap.

I remember well, when I purchased my first digital camera. I tried to hide it from her, but had to put it aways when she entered the room. Unfortunately, she saw the cable and followed that back to the camera. She still mentions that!

And the day that I've told her that I've spent EUR 550,-- for a Carbon Fibre frame around my shifter was a very bad one for me - and still is

Im on her side, you do buy some unnecessary crap :v

Higgins

you are walking on thin ice, young man! X-(

Chriscoop

A lot of it comes down to perceived value for money, I've said before many people spend thousands on golf clubs and membership or following their football team etc my wife just wouldn't get why a watch should cost 3-4-5 thousand pounds to her it's just a watch, she doesn't value her omegas as luxury watches. She sees value in her shoes and face creams above my purchases

welshboy78

Lately ive been catching the mrs sneaking clothes into the house in some kind of revenge )

Her excuses are worse then mine

The Bond Experience

Maybe some clarification is in order....first, let me say personally that Danielle knows about every purchase and acquisition because she handles my finances and in fact is incredibly supportive about my hobby...it has allowed us to travel and to make some really great friends and she sees the results to be very positive. In fact, she is a part of the vlog in that respect. But there is, whether we want to admit it or not, a system, approach, technique (call it what you like) that many collectors use (not just Bond collectors) because of varied reasons...some of them are very playful in nature ie of course the spouse knows whats up, all the way to the incredibly complicated. But it exists. The vlog idea wasn't to promote one over the other, but rather to show the humor and complicity of these things.....I do believe there should be as take-away theme that honesty is the best policy as it is an approach that rarely fails.

Asp9mm

Higgins wrote:

If I can, I hide EVERYTHING from her until she finds out. I hide 007 purchases, watch purchases, cameras, trainers - EVERYTHING!

You're a different case though. No doubt you hide the vile things you buy out of embarrassment. Especially the trainers. You might get away with it more often if you bought more subdued colours though 8-)

welshboy78

Mr Higgy: Good night dear (turns off bedside lamp)

Mrs Higgy: WTF is that green glow coming from your wardrobe?

Mr Higgy: Errrr goodnight

jared_nomak

Live for myself and answer to nobody

Charmed & Dangerous

) ) )

welshboy78 wrote:

Mr Higgy: Good night dear (turns off bedside lamp)

Mrs Higgy: WTF is that green glow coming from your wardrobe?

Mr Higgy: Errrr goodnight

Welshie, I’ve fixed this for you:

Mr Higgy: Good night dear (turns off bedside lamp)

Mrs Higgy: WTF is that green glow coming from your wardrobe?

Mr Higgy: I can’t lie, I’ve bought another $10,000 watch, it’s the luminous hands you can see.

Mrs Higgy: You lying b@$t@rd, you’ve been buying those bl00dy horrible trainers again!

Mr Higgy: Errrr goodnight

Cajun

The Mantis wrote:

Maybe some clarification is in order....first, let me say personally that Danielle knows about every purchase and acquisition because she handles my finances and in fact is incredibly supportive about my hobby...it has allowed us to travel and to make some really great friends and she sees the results to be very positive. In fact, she is a part of the vlog in that respect. But there is, whether we want to admit it or not, a system, approach, technique (call it what you like) that many collectors use (not just Bond collectors) because of varied reasons...some of them are very playful in nature ie of course the spouse knows whats up, all the way to the incredibly complicated. But it exists. The vlog idea wasn't to promote one over the other, but rather to show the humor and complicity of these things.....I do believe there should be as take-away theme that honesty is the best policy as it is an approach that rarely fails.

Thanks for clarifying the mission for the morality police, David. There's always an element of fun and entertainment to your product, and it sounds like some folks need to be reminded. 8-)

As for me, it depends what the Bond item is. When it comes to firearms, she'd probably never notice were it not for me showing her. These days I generally sell something off to make a new purchase anyway. She's fully aware of their tangible investment value and knows that I'll always at least recover my cost on a sale and purchase at or near dealer cost on anything new. Strategy: Retirement Fund/Collateral Value

Clothing and footwear are a little trickier since I tend not to vary "uniforms" much. But think about it gents, one of the easiest things we can share common ground on with the fairer sex is a penchant for fashion! She likes anything that flatters me and most importantly that I'll actually wear, even if it's on the pricier side. She also appreciate the words 'Iconic Alternatives.' Strategy: Trophy Husband Wardrobe Enhancement

Watches? I don't even try. She knows that I own two luxury Bond watches, and one of them was a gift from her. When I once introduced another, it wasn't so much the price she was concerned with as much as how the new one would affect the pecking order of hers. Funny how that works. Strategy: Still Trying to Navigate This One

All that said, something that's really enhanced the hobby is becoming an online auction seller, which not only makes it possible to recoup the costs of past collections I just couldn't live without, but helps me make some nice purchases for my better half as well. Strategy: Easy Come Easy Go

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