When I once introduced another, it wasn't so much the price she was concerned with as much as how the new one would affect the pecking order of hers. Funny how that works.
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I guess I'm in the minority. I tell my wife about everything I get to share in my excitement. While I know she's not as excited as I, she enjoys the fact it makes me happy. She has never questioned any 007 item I've purchased. In Fact she just bought me the Magnoli Mr. White jacket. So not only is she stunningly beautiful, she's also incredibly amazing.
Feel free to use my name, real or AJB name, David.
I think a lot of our behaviour is due to the type of woman we are with, for my part it's purely domestic expediency, I'm not prepared to justify myself for buying something I want and value to my wife when I know she simply doesn't get the value and that goes both ways, my wife has a collection of beautiful and expensive gowns, with matching shoes and accessories and each one has never been worn twice every occasion we attend will see a new outfit or gown being bought I have absolutely no issue with this as it makes her happy and she deserves that, but she is the kind who would find a use for my expendable income if I didn't deep down she knows, today is my birthday and she struggles to find a nice present simply due to the fact " your impossible, you always just buy everything you want, your aftershave is particular, your watches are above what I'd spend, and your always buying clothes " It's also worth pointing out that Mrs Coop trusts me, she knows I'd never buy something on credit or spend money that was needed elsewhere.
I normally just say I am looking at getting this because its bond related and it's normally followed up by "your crazy" or "what now" and an eye roll. Then I get it. She thinks my obsession with bond and bond related items is silly however she knows how much I enjoy them so she doesn't say much.
So are we going to see your acting abilities, and I mean both of you, showing various humorous scenarios of prop acquisition and explanation to SWMBO (She Who Must Be Obeyed), the possibilties are endless for the humour (just need a good script)
So are we going to see your acting abilities, and I mean both of you, showing various humorous scenarios of prop acquisition and explanation to SWMBO (She Who Must Be Obeyed), the possibilties are endless for the humour (just need a good script)
) ) You really don’t know anything about us. The first thing you should know about us is that we have people everywhere. The truth is you don’t even know we exist. We are everywhere and you don’t even know it.......... :v
) ) You really don’t know anything about us. The first thing you should know about us is that we have people everywhere. The truth is you don’t even know we exist. We are everywhere and you don’t even know it.......... :v
This rather benign inquiry has prompted some interesting comments. My two cents: Whether rightly or wrongly, if one spouse earns the vast majority of the income, that person is probably less likely to feel it necessary to consult the other before making a purchase. I can appreciate the rationale behind that thinking. But if incomes are equal (and shared), it seems incredibly selfish not to be in agreement before making a large purchase, let alone to engage in deception. Of course, the definition of “large” will vary based on individual circumstances.
I think this is all being taken far too seriously, men have for many years kept their own counsel from their wives, from stopping off at the pub on the way home from work and declaring " I only had a quick half" to the older gent who secretly turns down his hearing aid when his wife starts off on one, to the man who has a cheeky macdonalds for lunch but tells his wife he's had such a hard day he hasn't had time for lunch. Imho you are on dodgy ground to accuse someone of dishonesty or lying unless you know their personal circumstances and the personality of both them and their spouse. Obviously there are lines not to be crossed ie defaulting on your mortgage or rent to buy a Dior jacket bond wore for 7 minutes in a film would be one of them, but I'm pretty sure no one here would do such a thing, or outright lie to a partner if asked a direct question. Mostly it's all just a bit of fun.
Well when the TF Harrington jacket project came around I had quit my job and from my last income bought the QoS jacket. Let's say my GF appeared not amused . I just could not pass on this project...
When the delivery came around, my GF told me she noticed we (the forum) had a little trouble with the minimum number and - if I hadn't - she would have ordered one for me... if only to shut me up about this jacket. Apparently my GF lurks. Guys, the GF or wives know. They always know.
I always discuss any (large) purchase in advance, my motivation for the purchase, what it is and what I am roughly prepared or going to pay for it. However, this is mutual. When she goes shopping I know what to expect, somewhat :007).
I find that the best play that seems to work (or has until now) has been what I like to refer to as "the PayPal method" aka "the hidden money tree". So like probably all of you, my PayPal account is attached to my eBay and whenever I sell anything that's associated with the pair of us (that old sofa, the baby gates, DVD (remember those?!) shelving units etc) 100% of the sale goes into our joint account for spending together - happy days. However, when I put an old jacket of mine or jeans that were worn once and then you realise they were completely the wrong cut for you on there, that pot stays for use for something new and Bondian for me. Then when it arrives and she gives me that "what have you ordered now?" look I can say with a smile and an offer of massage later "well, remember that old coat that you hated?" (assignment of blame) "well I sold that on eBay and only had to pay a little bit extra..." (don't reveal actual amount unless pressed) "...for this beauty" - pull out new and much more sexy Bond item and try on immediately stating "looks great right?!" to which if she shrugs and smiles and says "yeah, it's ok I guess" then I've won the day and I can bask in the glory of another small victory. She knows the score really (^ see the post above, they know - they always know) but is humouring me because she loves me. The same way I don't give her a hard time when ANOTHER pair of black ankle boots arrives for her.
Luckily I'm not in the position to be buying an Aston Martin anytime soon so no need to break out the big gun massages yet and of course anything large is discussed between us both - but those little things that occasionally have big price tags are what we live for and that my friends is what life is all about.
No, thats not me, my wife is blonde, and much slimmer.
Why would it be me? In which of posts did I allude to my wife being in control? No no I'm part of mutually respectful relationship which you obviously are not? It's a guess as most women I've ever known would not tolerate being referred to as his woman or my woman or anybodys woman but their own. But there in lies your obvious lack of maturity or intellect or both, when you've evolved enough to pick your knuckles off the floor then feel free to attempt a more fitting and accurately aimed riposte!
No, thats not me, my wife is blonde, and much slimmer.
Why would it be me? In which of posts did I allude to my wife being in control?
Because of the picture you posted I mistakenly thought you too were the type of man who feels the need to apologise for spending his hard earned money.
After reading a few posts of self-pity and people commiserating with each other I had to quit, so I didn't read your previous comments at first.
Nevertheless the picture accurately reflects the state lots of men are in today.
But in many cases it's not their fault.
The changes in family law shifted the power from men to women in married couples.
Because the wifes in most cases earn less than the husband a separation would mean having to pay alimony and mostly for life.
That can be a heavy burden and even financially ruin you for the rest of your life.
So women can pretty much do whatever they want because men prefer to chose the lesser of the two evils and therefore the majority of divorces is initiated by women.
Well, I'm a young bachelor so never had this problem.
I probably wouldn't bring up the topic though..when she finds out I would be like, "OH..that little thing completely forgot about that." )
Honestly though, it would be something playful and funny. I wouldn't be with a girl who is seriously questioning my purchases as long as I'm being responsible about it.
No, thats not me, my wife is blonde, and much slimmer.
Why would it be me? In which of posts did I allude to my wife being in control?
Because of the picture you posted I mistakenly thought you too were the type of man who feels the need to apologise for spending his hard earned money.
After reading a few posts of self-pity and people commiserating with each other I had to quit, so I didn't read your previous comments at first.
Nevertheless the picture accurately reflects the state lots of men are in today.
But in many cases it's not their fault.
The changes in family law shifted the power from men to women in married couples.
Because the wifes in most cases earn less than the husband a separation would mean having to pay alimony and mostly for life.
That can be a heavy burden and even financially ruin you for the rest of your life.
So women can pretty much do whatever they want because men prefer to chose the lesser of the two evils and therefore the majority of divorces is initiated by women.
Evidently you are very young and are lacking experience.
You have to learn a lot about women (and married men) and I can assure you that the threat of a divorce is not what keeps us in order.
President of the 'Misty Eyes Club'.
Dalton - the weak and weepy Bond!
No, thats not me, my wife is blonde, and much slimmer.
Why would it be me? In which of posts did I allude to my wife being in control?
Because of the picture you posted I mistakenly thought you too were the type of man who feels the need to apologise for spending his hard earned money.
After reading a few posts of self-pity and people commiserating with each other I had to quit, so I didn't read your previous comments at first.
Nevertheless the picture accurately reflects the state lots of men are in today.
But in many cases it's not their fault.
The changes in family law shifted the power from men to women in married couples.
Because the wifes in most cases earn less than the husband a separation would mean having to pay alimony and mostly for life.
That can be a heavy burden and even financially ruin you for the rest of your life.
So women can pretty much do whatever they want because men prefer to chose the lesser of the two evils and therefore the majority of divorces is initiated by women.
Evidently you are very young and are lacking experience.
You have to learn a lot about women (and married men) and I can assure you that the threat of a divorce is not what keeps us in order.
It is quite correct that more women file for divorce than men, but this is not due to control, it's all down the psychological make up and differences of men and women. Men don't file for divorce because they're not unhappy, they are happy to just scrape along in an unsatisfactory marriage, where as women aren't, they will feel taken for granted, dissatisfaction ( which is a very common female trait) and emotionally upset so will move to change their situation. I can assure you that in most cases concerning ordinary people ( not very wealthy) no one comes out of divorce well financially except the lawyers, it can be a very destructive and acrimonious event. Now we come to the reason for this thread and why some of us behave as we do when we buy another bond item, or have to upgrade the dvd to a blue ray and buy yet another bond Box set because" well honey this set is the complete up to date one, and blue ray is just so much better...... Just look at all these extra features and picture quality"
It's purely down to your relationship dynamics, most men will hide or create a reasoning for their purchase which is hard to argue against just to avoid conflict and argument, not because they are scared of their partner, it's totally the opposite men are protecting their wife or girlfriend from having to get upset which in turn would lead to an argument, bad feeling, confrontation and in extreme cases in some relationships you'll miss out on sexy time too ( as women attach more emotion to sex than men so when they are mad at you you've got no chance)
If of course you simply dont care what your partner thinks of your purchase, you enjoy that " its my money, my business and I'll do what I want, I don't care about your opinion " and you get away with that then well done and lucky you, you've found yourself a stepford wife or possibly someone from a house with a controlling father! But beware, womens hormones can be deceptive and your your money your business may well end up being cited as unreasonable behaviour on the divorce petition
It's too bad that you haven't been with us at the AJB meetup in London.
My wife yelling at the poor waiter because he ignored her - would be enough first hand experience and you wouldn't be forced to write so many words on that topic
President of the 'Misty Eyes Club'.
Dalton - the weak and weepy Bond!
I think the simplest and most concise way to say it is simply this: find someone who shares your passion in collecting Bond items (or any particular passion they may have). Find someone who shares the fact that you have passion in something. I don’t pretend to have even the slightest knowledge of David’s relationship dynamic with his wife but from all the videos he’s posted, I’ve come away with the impression that his wife, at a minimum, tolerates his passion, and at a maximum, shares it. That’s a recipe for success and longevity in relationships in my opinion.
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Ah I can relate to this one.
Bit like the unwanted xmas gift
Feel free to use my name, real or AJB name, David.
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In that case don't ask purvis and wade!
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When the delivery came around, my GF told me she noticed we (the forum) had a little trouble with the minimum number and - if I hadn't - she would have ordered one for me... if only to shut me up about this jacket. Apparently my GF lurks. Guys, the GF or wives know. They always know.
I leave it at this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wFyh06IliZI
I always discuss any (large) purchase in advance, my motivation for the purchase, what it is and what I am roughly prepared or going to pay for it. However, this is mutual. When she goes shopping I know what to expect, somewhat :007).
Luckily I'm not in the position to be buying an Aston Martin anytime soon so no need to break out the big gun massages yet and of course anything large is discussed between us both - but those little things that occasionally have big price tags are what we live for and that my friends is what life is all about.
You're not Donald Trump by any chance are you?
Or Harvey Weinstein?
Or Dustin Hoffman?
Or Kevin Spacey?
Or Bill Cosby?
Just wondering, cos you come across as a complete bellend.
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No, thats not me, my wife is blonde, and much slimmer.
Why would it be me? In which of posts did I allude to my wife being in control? No no I'm part of mutually respectful relationship which you obviously are not? It's a guess as most women I've ever known would not tolerate being referred to as his woman or my woman or anybodys woman but their own. But there in lies your obvious lack of maturity or intellect or both, when you've evolved enough to pick your knuckles off the floor then feel free to attempt a more fitting and accurately aimed riposte!
Thats quite restrained for you Geff
Please do not feed the troll!
www.justgiving.com/inMemoryOfLewisCollins
www.helpforheroes.org.uk
Vive le droit à la libre expression! Je suis Charlie!
www.helpforheroes.org.uk
www.cancerresearchuk.org
After reading a few posts of self-pity and people commiserating with each other I had to quit, so I didn't read your previous comments at first.
Nevertheless the picture accurately reflects the state lots of men are in today.
But in many cases it's not their fault.
The changes in family law shifted the power from men to women in married couples.
Because the wifes in most cases earn less than the husband a separation would mean having to pay alimony and mostly for life.
That can be a heavy burden and even financially ruin you for the rest of your life.
So women can pretty much do whatever they want because men prefer to chose the lesser of the two evils and therefore the majority of divorces is initiated by women.
I probably wouldn't bring up the topic though..when she finds out I would be like, "OH..that little thing completely forgot about that."
Honestly though, it would be something playful and funny. I wouldn't be with a girl who is seriously questioning my purchases as long as I'm being responsible about it.
Evidently you are very young and are lacking experience.
You have to learn a lot about women (and married men) and I can assure you that the threat of a divorce is not what keeps us in order.
Dalton - the weak and weepy Bond!
It is quite correct that more women file for divorce than men, but this is not due to control, it's all down the psychological make up and differences of men and women. Men don't file for divorce because they're not unhappy, they are happy to just scrape along in an unsatisfactory marriage, where as women aren't, they will feel taken for granted, dissatisfaction ( which is a very common female trait) and emotionally upset so will move to change their situation. I can assure you that in most cases concerning ordinary people ( not very wealthy) no one comes out of divorce well financially except the lawyers, it can be a very destructive and acrimonious event. Now we come to the reason for this thread and why some of us behave as we do when we buy another bond item, or have to upgrade the dvd to a blue ray and buy yet another bond Box set because" well honey this set is the complete up to date one, and blue ray is just so much better...... Just look at all these extra features and picture quality"
It's purely down to your relationship dynamics, most men will hide or create a reasoning for their purchase which is hard to argue against just to avoid conflict and argument, not because they are scared of their partner, it's totally the opposite men are protecting their wife or girlfriend from having to get upset which in turn would lead to an argument, bad feeling, confrontation and in extreme cases in some relationships you'll miss out on sexy time too ( as women attach more emotion to sex than men so when they are mad at you you've got no chance)
If of course you simply dont care what your partner thinks of your purchase, you enjoy that " its my money, my business and I'll do what I want, I don't care about your opinion " and you get away with that then well done and lucky you, you've found yourself a stepford wife or possibly someone from a house with a controlling father! But beware, womens hormones can be deceptive and your your money your business may well end up being cited as unreasonable behaviour on the divorce petition
It's too bad that you haven't been with us at the AJB meetup in London.
My wife yelling at the poor waiter because he ignored her - would be enough first hand experience and you wouldn't be forced to write so many words on that topic
Dalton - the weak and weepy Bond!