My Predicament....Advice Needed

scottmu65 · December 2008

So I've just started talking to this girl that I've met. I met her on the internet on a dating website (I thought I would give it a try).

She's amazing, we have talked for hours and have so much in common, she's intelligent, funny, sweet, open minded, we both love films and music, our vision of a first date, first kiss, first everything is the same, you get where I'm coming from.

Basically the problem is, she is in Chester, while I am in Preston, It takes about 2 hours on the train, some only an hour and a half but It's just typical.

What should I do, should I carry on speaking to her and maybe try the long distance thing, or should I just quit while I'm ahead?

I don't know whether or not I could cope with long distance, especially when It's someone I want to spend a lot of time with.

Any advice you can give me would be greatly appreciated, I just need to make some kind of decision. I mean I could be getting in over my head here but if I knew I could cope with it I would be a fool to pass it up.

Loeffelholz · December 2008

I'd say go one day at a time, scott. Get to know her---let her get to know you---and build a dialogue, but take steps instead of leaps.

One can't have too many friends, after all.

Barry Nelson · December 2008

I am by no means an expert on relationships, but it occured to me you might want to ask her what she thinks of the distance issue, if you haven;t already. She might have some thoughts to share on the matter.

blueman · December 2008

Yeah, distance with that kinda thing sucks. Agree with the above comments, no one solution to it, just keep taking those steps and keep your head about you. 2 hours might end up not being so bad after all.

Macrossmaster · December 2008

Ha! 2 hours is nothing. My wife and I began dating while living 2 hours away. We've been married 7 years now and have a 6 month old, celebrating her first Christmas.

I'd say its worth the shot. Look what happened for me!

Sir Miles · December 2008

Really Scott, two hours is nothing...have you thought of trying to meet somewhere in the middle ? I mean, an hour for each of you isn't much at all.
And DO keep talking...people tend to forget that talking is so important nowadays...and when - and if - you do meet...try and not put too much pressure on each other...keep the meeting to a couple of hours or so...then if it doesn't work you each have a ready made excuse to leave...if it does work...well...that's when the fun starts

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I stress enough that you must keep talking...not only is it vital to a relationship but it's also a lost artform

Good luck.

DrMaybe · December 2008

I don't think the question is "What do you do about a girlfriend who's 2 hours away?" but rather "How do you keep your wife 2 hours away for the next 50 years?"

scottmu65 · December 2008

Thanks for the advice guys, Ive decided to just go with the flow. No harm in seeing where it takes me.

Pendragon · December 2008

I had a very happy long distance relationship a few years back. He lives in England, and I live in the states. And even now, we're still friends. I say try it out.

Best of luck to you, Scott! :007)

~Pendragon -{

Thunderbird 2 · December 2008

Pay attention Scott, this is important.

I was in such a relationship a long time ago, it didn't last long, but it was a very special very intense time for me. I was living in Dundee, she was living south of Ayr! (Diagonally opposite ends of Scotland.)

I don't miss her, but I miss what we had and never regretted the long train journeys to get to her while we were together.

Life is too short to give up on Golden opportunities. Take it a step at a time, see how things develop, but don't give up without trying!!

By the by, can you please PM me the website the two of you met on? Thjanks.

Asp9mm · December 2008

Keep going, even if things peter out after a period, you will not forget and never regret what you have now, or could have later

My Predicament....Advice Needed

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