life changing events

jon_1ukjon_1uk Posts: 674MI6 Agent
apart from the usual 1st job, marriage etc anybody ad any life changing events in there life ?

my 1st was my dad passing away when i was 18 .. as well as being my dad he was also my best friend .. we
were very close.

The 2nd was chucking in my job, selling my house and relocating 300 miles down south to live with someone
who i thought was gonna be my wife. ( didnt work out....now single)
"some men are coming to kill us, we're going to kill them first"

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  • chrisisallchrisisall Western Mass, USAPosts: 9,062MI6 Agent
    Kinda wouldn't be life, without life-changing events, right? I've to many to recount here, but I guess the most interesting would be learning martial arts in my mid teens, which allowed me to be be able to suggest to the die-hard school bullies that they could kiss my freckled butt.* :))

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  • Mr MartiniMr Martini That nice house in the sky.Posts: 2,703MI6 Agent
    I've never had a life changing event. I've had a surgery though that made me think about life. There was a risk involved with the surgery. Before I had the surgery I knew the risks and started to think about what life would be like if things went wrong in the surgery. Thankfully though the surgery went well. A couple very, very small complications. That was almost 20 years ago and I'm still here, just like I was before the surgery. In the end it wasn't a life changing event, but it was an event that made me think about life. (does that make sense?)
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  • LexiLexi LondonPosts: 3,000MI6 Agent
    This is going to sound weird... but getting a job at Starbucks changed my life... (not becasue it taught me how to make coffee) but it opened up doors for me, and it's how I became a graphic designer.

    A chain of events... I went from a Barista in Canada, to then getting a job at a British Starbucks (had experience) then once a manager of a store, a regular customer offered me a job in his publishing company... then trained me as typesetter and now I run my own business. {[]

    So I have a lot to thank Starbucks for... (and all becasue my brother, who I hero worshiped... told me that was a cool place to work, I was at a small privatly owned cafe at the time...)

    Amazing how things lead to another... and never has it been so true "it's not what you know, it's who...."
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  • JarvioJarvio EnglandPosts: 4,241MI6 Agent
    - Learning guitar
    - Becoming a songwriter
    - Getting into uni
    - Graduating
    - My dad's death
    - An illness I went through and overcame

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  • scottmu65scottmu65 Carlisle, Cumbria, UKPosts: 402MI6 Agent
    I've not really had anything profound happen to me that I would class as lifechanging or otherwise but in terms of more direct things then I suppose the most prominent thing would be a workshop I completed over 2 years ago.

    I was a very sad teenager, having been bullied throughout my whole school life, I kept trying to further my education but my depression kept getting in the way, I tried moving away for studies but that didnt work either, I had a string of different jobs, all of which I hated. I also had a string of short and/or bad relationships with women, I had certain friends on-off alot of the time, I longed to be with someone who understood me, which of course made things harder, I thought I would never find anybody. To top it off there were my alcohol issues, some might say I was borderline alcoholic but I'm not sure what the criteria is for that! I liked a drink but more often that not it made me depressed, everytime I drank I longed for 'this time to be a good one' but it hardly ever was, I could rarely just have 'the one', I had to make a night of it, whether out or at home alone, even if I did just have one it would bug me for hours and I would want a drink...

    ...Anyway, a friend of mine had recently done some workshop ran by his ex-girlfriends family that he kept talking about, although he refused to tell me what it entailed and the whole thing just seemed a bit weird, especially with it being his ex's family business. He went on and on about me trying it out, I was aprehensive but eventually I said i'd give it a go. I turned up on the first day not knowing what to expect, it turned out the reason my friend couldn't tell me what was going to happen was because they made us make a promise of confidence with them as if people knew what was going to happen then it would have no effect, needless to say I became more nervous and weirded out by the whole thing, I was sat in this village hall slap, bang in the middle of nowhere with a small group of complete strangers that had also agreed to it. At first I was worried it was going to be some religious thing where they would try to convert me or something (nothing against people having faith but I draw the line at brainwashing heh), anyway I completed the three day workshop and WOW, I felt great about myself, apparently I was their star participant, and it wasnt over either, I had only completed the first half, the second half was in 2 weeks time and I would be completing it with my friend who introduced me as he hadnt completed both parts either. The second half was tough, it was intense, it pushed me so far out of my comfort zone using different tasks that I can't go into (publicly anyway) Ultimately it made me realise who I was, a confident, funny young man. It probably sounds preachy and new-agey and hippy-ish as it did to me when I first heard about it but it really wasn't, it was like a huge paraglim shift, a completely radical change in the way I look at myself and the world, it was about removing the barriers we all put around ourselves, and there was people there from all walks of life aswell, businesswomen, teachers, students, parents etc. etc.

    Anyway I changed my entire outlook on life, now I am studying again (a degree in Video Game design), I'm married, have two step-kids and a baby girl due in 7 weeks time :)

    EDIT: Oh, and I can also enjoy a few stiff ones now without wanting to carry on all night :)
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  • don pdon p Posts: 607MI6 Agent
    i left a 20 yr career in the prison service,, good hrs, good pention, and went to Afghanistan,

    im a bomb dog handler, and im out hunting every day,, saving lives,,
  • minigeffminigeff EnglandPosts: 7,884MI6 Agent
    don p wrote:
    i left a 20 yr career in the prison service,, good hrs, good pention, and went to Afghanistan,

    im a bomb dog handler, and im out hunting every day,, saving lives,,

    Well done mate, muchios respect for you and your colleagues out there. I'm curious to know though, and I am not saying this in a patronising way at all, but what do you lads think of the situation out there?

    Do you feel you're making a difference to the local's lives and that their country will one day be peaceful and marginally democratic, or is it really another Vietnam and things will never change, and that once we do decide to leave, the place will return to either the same or a worse situation?

    I'm really asking as I've got an interest in this, and I've read a lot of books written by guys who have reportedly been there and done that, but I can't help feeling that these books are 'sexed up' a bit to add some drama, and possibly the more negative stuff gets censored long before publication.

    If you wanna reply in pm then that's fine, I'm just curious to hear your views mate.

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  • don pdon p Posts: 607MI6 Agent
    minigeff wrote:
    don p wrote:
    i left a 20 yr career in the prison service,, good hrs, good pention, and went to Afghanistan,

    im a bomb dog handler, and im out hunting every day,, saving lives,,

    Well done mate, muchios respect for you and your colleagues out there. I'm curious to know though, and I am not saying this in a patronising way at all, but what do you lads think of the situation out there?

    Do you feel you're making a difference to the local's lives and that their country will one day be peaceful and marginally democratic, or is it really another Vietnam and things will never change, and that once we do decide to leave, the place will return to either the same or a worse situation?

    I'm really asking as I've got an interest in this, and I've read a lot of books written by guys who have reportedly been there and done that, but I can't help feeling that these books are 'sexed up' a bit to add some drama, and possibly the more negative stuff gets censored long before publication.

    If you wanna reply in pm then that's fine, I'm just curious to hear your views mate.

    MG -{

    Hi,, i really dont know if i can answer that,, what ever happens we,ll be here along time, it is a bit vietnam and the locals have been at war for so long its all they know,
    you must understand this county needs everything,, electric,, gas,, phones,, allsorts,, theres no sewage system here, no running water, its all done via pump,, when ever nato /isaf has tried to put these in, the bad guys threaten. abuse,, and destroy,, this is not a Brit or yank war,, its NATO, countries will come and go, but this is the heart of the bad guys, and we must stay, even though .. yes it seems at times we arn,t getting anywhere, .. hope that helps,,
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